Awwwwwww..... the end of Glencara

Glencare closed today...
Hmm I wonder why....
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2010/09/i-am-not-allowed-to.html
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2010/09/i-am-allowed-to.html

A word from Annie, creator/owner of Mystara

Sean Devin IM'd me out of the blue to warn me of what a terrible, evil person Essie is. At the time he'd messaged me, I knew her casually as she rented one of my cottages, and asked for noticing rights so she could host events. I agreed and from what I knew, she seemed to be a perfectly decent human being.

I am neither the type of person to get involved in slanderous gossip, nor do I believe what people tell me outright as being "truth". I form my OWN judgments of people based on my OWN experience with them because it is the MORAL thing to do. Even if I get burned. It's saved me from a lot of drama and heartache.

So when Sean Devin, the co-owner of Everwind (whom has never ONCE acknowledged me nor even said a friendly hello) messaged me out of nowhere, warning me that there was a terrible person living on my sim, acting as though he actually cared about me and was doing me some kind of a favor, I had one thing to ask: What did Essie do? I asked him to give me some concrete examples of things she actually did. Because everything he was saying was a bunch of anecdotal slander.

His only reply was "thanks for your time". I pointedly asked him again to give me some concrete evidence, all he could say was a) she complains openly on her blog and b) he gave me a notecard of someone else offering anecdotal complaints. Now I'm complaining openly, and people deserve to know the truth.

My noticing rights were revoked from the group they run, called the Medi-fantasy group, merely because I "associate" with Essie. If that isn't petty or vindictive I don't know what is.

Eventually everyone will realize what kind of people Grace and Sean are.

-Annie Ibanez, owner of Mystara


This post is a response to:
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2010/10/it-sucks-to-be-you.html

"It sucks to be you"

Tsk tsk tsk Sean Devin *looks stern and waves with her indexfinger*
YOU have been a bad boy... haven't you....
Contacting a simowner where I organise some events...
Tsk Tsk Sean...
Slandering me... rambling on and on about how a dangerous and horrible person I am...
Tsk Tsk Sean...
Warning that I spread everyone's nasty chats around in my blog
Tsk Tsk Sean...
... You almost hurt my feelings... *smirks*

And when you were asked twice to come with concrete things...
... you ran off like a coward and wished 'have a nice day'
Cuz... there is NOTHING that I did...

All the stuff about EW...
...all the drama....
Was caused by Grace AND you...
All I did was publish your griefing

So.. more read the blog now, and it only confirms the things that everybody heard about...
That you 2 are very cruel persons.

YOU really show character when you have this in your profile:
"STFU: Dont message me or my wife to find out why you've been banned from one of our 7 sims...
More than likely it's because youre a twit, and/or associate with a twit.. but yeah..im sorry youre a twit...
To the people I hate en masse, you'll be happy to know that i'm really annoyed youre still alive."

And this:
"The Everwind sims are privately owned. This means that the owner ultimately has the final say in everything Everwind.
The following is directed to the fails that were kicked, booted, banned.
You didnt get your way. You're not entitled to anything. Go make your own sims...wait...I mean homesteads. Do it your way, go ahead...i've already gotten a decent $L pot going for when your failed ventures get closed. ( One Month ... LAME LAME LAME FAIL FAIL LAME ) I'd name names but no one would know who you were anyway :(
I know...I know...sucks to be you."

IF you 2 were more 'human' you would ...
... o well... I guess that would never happen cuz you don't have feelings...
You don't care about ppl's feelings....
You just like to slaughter them...
You play nice at first, and then stick a knife in their back
... even twist it a few times
And you enjoy it too...

One down...
... 2 to go...


Sean... I know... I know... it sucks to be you

Her true-self revealed…

Who is Grace Loudon?
She is the owner of the Everwind Realm and estates…
To some she is an angel…
To most she is the devil in disguise…

It all started when Grace announced that she would rebuild Everwind and she was recruiting leaders for her sims. She ‘hired’ many people and let them do their thing without giving them any feed-back about what her idea for HER roleplay sim. Many raceleaders DID their thing and the group was growing. Many events were held. People were enjoying themselves.

At that time I had my own Information&Events group for the medieval/Fantasy roleplay. It was growing fast and had about 500 active members. Grace had a group as well but was not active. So I offered to merge both groups cuz most it would be useless to have 2 of the same groups. She agreed and I merged my group with hers and I became a co-owner.

WHAT A STUPID MISTAKE WAS THAT! Grace started to use the group for her own personal wars… Some sims weren’t allowed to post notices and members were ejected because she has a personal problem with them.

Tswei: “Everwind and Medi-Fantasy Events & Information are Two seperate groups , One is a roleplay sim and the other is for ALL Roleplay sims of Medievl Fantasy Events.
in neither of these groups was a rule broken by Tsewi Erien , the owner became hostle and upset because it was brought to her attatition about her OWN rules of being nice to others and NOT resort to the level of name calling which she did with someone. All Tsewi did was point this out and for this the owner of the sim Everwind and co owner of Medi-Fantasy Events & Information banned Tsewi Erien from both groups. Upon this Banning her Second life partner Imed Tsewi and said she was Banned from Everwind where Tsewi told him that Grace Loudon had already Banned her , he then called her an Idiot” .
[20:13] Grace Loudon: You have been ejected from 'Medi-Fantasy Events & Information' by Grace Loudon.
[20:17] Tsewi Eiren: you can eject me from the sim but you CAN NOT eject me from Medi-Fantasy Events & information
[20:17] Tsewi Eiren: I have NOt BROKEN Any Rules
[20:17] Tsewi Eiren: nor Have I broken a Rule in Everwind.

[21:15] Sean Devin: You have been ejected from 'Everwind' by Sean Devin.
[21:17] Tsewi Eiren: your a little too late on that one Grace has already done that
[21:17] Tsewi Eiren: but that is ok , I did NOT break any rules
[21:18] Sean Devin: Muted.. Idiot.. Bye!

This is what happened in the EW groupchat… and please tell me where Tsewi did something wrong…
[19:45] Talen Braumley: is esme, graces other avatar online?
[19:46] Janet Rothmanay: Given that Grace herself is DJing, I'd imagine not.
[19:46] Sean Devin: No Esme is a fraud all the way around
[19:46] Talen Braumley: ok
[19:46] Janet Rothmanay: Oh lovely...
[19:58] Talen Braumley: grace just said here one sec
[19:58] Kelly Heron: Grace said what?
[19:59] Talen Braumley: why wont you answer me?
[19:53] Grace Loudon: Child - why don't you grow up? I don't have time for crap like this from you.
[19:54] Talen Braumley: excuse me!
[19:54] Talen Braumley: i dont have to for you not answering me
[19:54] Grace Loudon: Idiot
[19:54] Talen Braumley: what did i do?
[19:55] Talen Braumley: i thought you were a nice person but now i know better
[19:55] Grace Loudon: [19:55] Talen Braumley is typing...
[19:55] Grace Loudon: [19:55] Talen Braumley is typing...
[19:55] Grace Loudon: [19:55] Talen Braumley is typing...
[19:55] Talen Braumley: ...
[19:55] Talen Braumley: what...
[19:56] Talen Braumley: well fine then you know i have very little friends and umm well to be honest i thought we were on the road to friendship but i guess i was i guess you thought i was just a stupid child
[19:59] Talen Braumley: there read it
[19:59] Janet Rothmanay: Pretty sure that paste is a violation of TOS....
[19:59] Talen Braumley: what is TOS
[20:00] Janet Rothmanay: Terms of Service
[20:00] Talen Braumley: oops
[20:00] Talen Braumley: well all i did was say can i have a job and she is like child i dont have time
[20:01] blayne Bluebird just logged on: Whats going on now
[20:01] Grace Loudon: What a cow
[20:01] Talen Braumley: SHUT UP
[20:01] blayne Bluebird: sorry. . .
[20:01] Vilen Guardian: lmfao
[20:01] Talen Braumley: not you blayne
[20:01] Grace Loudon: For the record...my alts are Claire Bellow, Brumhilde Hynes, Troy Perian and Rustic Alter - that's it - NPCs - Claire you hear from now and again. There are no others.
[20:02] Talen Braumley: oh my god
[20:02] Talen Braumley: so umm
[20:02] blayne Bluebird: jesus woman
[20:02] Talen Braumley: esme isnt you
[20:02] Talen Braumley: what the... she said she was
[20:02] Talen Braumley: !
[20:02] Grace Loudon: Pardon?
[20:03] Talen Braumley: esme i dont know her last name said she was grace
[20:03] Tsewi Eiren: well what ever is going on , Shouldnt resort to name calling
[20:04] Grace Loudon laughs - uh...yeah
[20:04] Tsewi Eiren: and if someone falsely said they were Grace then , That log should be given to Grace in privite IM
[20:05] Grace Loudon: Tsewi - the idiot responsible for it did it
[20:05] Tsewi Eiren: and should not be brought to Group Chat
[20:06] Grace Loudon: Oh I see - well thank you chat cop.
[20:06] Grace Loudon: Being as it's my sim - I'll say what I like in chat.
[20:06] Tsewi Eiren: someone wanting to cause Trouble , teheh did you make someone mad
[20:07] Tsewi Eiren: just because one is above normal shouldnt they also heed to the same codes that they enforce on their players ?
[20:07] Grace Loudon: I'm about to make you mad
[20:07] Tsewi Eiren: no you cant make me mad
[20:07] Sean Devin: No but I will
[20:07] Dyisi Oppewall holds up the big "Quite while you're ahead" sign and flails.
[20:07] Tsewi Eiren: the truth is the truth
[20:08] Grace Loudon: buh bye
[20:08] Tsewi Eiren: bye


Meanwhile, Grace suddenly stepped in and started to replace race-/guild leaders… She wasn’t happy with the vision of the chosen path of the leaders: “It does not fit the Everwind vision”. While at an earlier point, in many conversations she said she was very pleased with about how smoothly things were running. And really, those raceleaders were VERY ACTIVE.

Android Nakajima: when she spoke with my husband through IM's, she threatened to take his role as wild elf leader if he did not let someone into the group that was bad news. she specifically said that anyone is allowed to join a race group of their choice as long as "the leader of the group accepts them". she said nothing about you HAVE to accept them or else you get depromoted. She even told him she was giving him a certain amount of time to add him to the group, and if he didnt when his time was up, she was taking his role and rights away. Shes power hungry and manipulative in my eyes. Anyone who doesnt do what she wants, she threatend to eliminate. And this is not just said by over hearing, I have seen this for myself.

Magda was forced to leave and Dream (best friend of Grace) was put in her place
[9:30] Grace Loudon: Talk to me about this rp last night or whenever it took place - with the "husband" trying to "murder" the old Tari
[9:31] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: you want the rp
[9:31] Grace Loudon: No - I would like to know the idea behind it. I'm curious to know why he would even choose to go in that direction.
[9:34] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: From what i have read he is not happy with the unrest and discontent she is starting in the realm. She is clearly here to berate and belittle my rule. Every chanse she gets she is insulting to me. IC wise ofcourse. I think he sees this and thinks her to be posessed.
[9:35] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: i think he is angered and going that direction cause of her attitude towards me. More people are going against her now than before its causing a huge rift in the people
[9:35] Grace Loudon: Okay here's what we need to remember.
[9:35] Grace Loudon: And you need to make sure he is clear on this.
[9:36] Grace Loudon: I *want* Dream here. Any efforts to make it difficult for her to do what I have asked her to do will result in you being removed from the role.
[9:36] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: Grace I am not gdoing this its his rp i cant control his rp
[9:36] Grace Loudon: Everwind is my sim. You are playing a role in it. If I had wanted her to take over, I would have asked you to step down alreayd.
[9:37] Grace Loudon: Yes you can - tell him to knock it off. Or I will.
[9:37] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: yes but he doesnt know ths ic
[9:37] Grace Loudon: I am not talking IC at the moment Magda.
[9:38] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: yes but i am telling you his reasoning clearly she can not be killed and when he gets in again I will talk tohim on it
[9:39] Grace Loudon: Dream is here to help - to advise - to get the elven groups in the right frame of mind. Right now, there is a great deal of animosity, unhappy people and the role is not taking hold like I had hoped. She is knowledgeable - she is experienced. Roleplay is roleplay, but you and I both know that you are being resentful out of character. I've seen the roleplay - I've seen the comments - I know the difference.
[9:39] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: Me no way
[9:39] Grace Loudon: Oh yes indeed you
[9:39] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: i am still going on she is going to help me
[9:40] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: I am just giving her it back as she doe me
[9:40] Grace Loudon: What is the "if they don't like the job I'm doing..." comment about then?
[9:40] Grace Loudon: Who is "they?
[9:40] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: i said that ic
[9:40] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: to soa in rp
[9:40] Grace Loudon: Who is they?
[9:40] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: what they
[9:40] Grace Loudon: Magda.
[9:40] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: where did i say that
[9:40] Grace Loudon: I am not stupid./
[9:41] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: no i honestly dont knwo where i saud they
[9:41] Grace Loudon: You said that, more than once, in the first night roleplay. Then I saw it again in the second night rp
[9:41] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: ohhhh
[9:41] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: yeah yeah
[9:41] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: i put dyisi and her togther
[9:41] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: them 2 have been after me the most
[9:41] Grace Loudon sighs
[9:42] Grace Loudon: Just stop
[9:42] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: I am trying to think of a way to shut him down ic
[9:43] Grace Loudon: I can read, I know how defensive you are over this. I know, and you know, that you are crossing the line a bit. It doesn't have to be stressful - Dream is trying to stick to the rp - she was a hardass before, she's a hardass now - I told you she doesn't mince words and she's direct
[9:43] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: i dont what to tell him ooc
[9:43] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: but grace even in ic you dont think mags would be defensive
[9:44] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: if you seen the rp iot seems that everything mags does isnt good enough
[9:44] Grace Loudon: Ultimately, I want the elven group in Everwind to be haughty, protective of The Magic, revered and to "rule" the sim. She's going to help you make that happen. In roleplay - she was sent by the elven goddess...that should be something held in awe - not fought
[9:44] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: I think i am acting my role accordingly
[9:44] Grace Loudon: I disagree
[9:44] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: yes i get that
[9:44] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: then how am I to act towards her you tell me
[9:45] Grace Loudon: Cooperate
[9:45] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: i have done nothing but that
[9:45] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: i offer my hand and she bites it
[9:45] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: i have the rp
[9:45] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: i tell her i will listen
[9:45] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: that i want t meet
[9:45] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: that i am open to hear her
[9:46] Grace Loudon: Yeah I do too - that's not what's coming across.
[9:46] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: but she is still insulting
[9:47] Grace Loudon: Listen, if Dream wants to insult you, she will insult you and you will know it. You are taking it far too personally - yet you claim you're good about keeping IC and OOC separate. You're not, actually. Stop taking it personally. Start cooperating. Let her help you organize and refocus the elven groups - all of them - so you can enjoy your role more without the drama
[9:48] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: If i am doing that i dont even know it.
[9:48] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: cause i thought i was acting accordingly
[9:48] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: grace she si being insulting i am not the only one that sees it
[9:49] Grace Loudon: So?
[9:49] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: So she can be insulting to me and I have to take it
[9:49] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: i mean i need to rp this correctly the way you want it
[9:51] Grace Loudon: Here's what I am saying to you: You know the ultimate goal for the group on the sims. Dream is not sugary - she is abrupt and can be hard - play against that. Be respectful but be the ruler. Don't gripe about it behind the scenes so the new hubby feels the need to try to off her. Make it reasonable rp - be cooperative - work with her - stop fighting her
[9:52] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: ok how do i do this rp wise
[9:54] Grace Loudon: Were it me she was roleplaying with, I would say things like "Thank you, Dream. I am grateful to Illustree for sending you to us. We trust and welcome your advisement. Please, let us go to a more private place to talk more about what the problems are and what we must do, together, to solve them." When the people you spend time with see that you are working with it, they will to.
[9:54] Grace Loudon: It's going to create a ton of roleplay for you and all the prople in the group
[9:54] Grace Loudon: More responsibiliies, more interest in the realms...it will pay off
[9:55] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: ok i thought i was doing that but mags in charcter is not a push over. i am not taking this ooc she is acting in charcter
[9:55] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: I did try that
[9:55] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: numerous times
[9:55] Grace Loudon: You don't need to be a pushover - perhaps if you keep in mind that being smart doesn't mean being weak.
[9:55] Grace Loudon: You are the Queen of Everwind
[9:56] Grace Loudon: You love your home and its people
[9:56] Grace Loudon: You have a duty to protect it
[9:56] Grace Loudon: Here is help, sent by the goddess herself
[9:56] Grace Loudon: To help you accomplish that
[9:57] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: I will try again with her and save the rp for you. As far as Vogonic is concerned i would rather stop him ic wise then make this an ooc issue
[9:58] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: Now how would i do that short of throwing him in jail
[9:58] Grace Loudon: That's fine but he's your partner so make sure he understands the goals of this

Magda and some others made a new RP realm, far away from all EW/Grace drama… and she suddenly gets an IM from Grace…
[18:15] Grace Loudon: Really?
[18:16] Grace Loudon: You are trying to recruit from Everwind?
[18:16] Grace Loudon: Tell me, is your sim open?
[18:16] Grace Loudon: I'm sending an alt to recruit for Everwind.
[18:17] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: huh
[18:17] Grace Loudon: Don't play dumb
[18:17] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: are you nuts
[18:17] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: i have not once set foot in ew since i oopened
[18:17] Grace Loudon: I have IM after Im and NCs out my ass of people complaining about people from Grym coming to EW to get players
[18:18] Grace Loudon: yes you have - on your alt
[18:18] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: thats them not me nope not even nce
[18:19] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: Im claw cause he is talking to ellie about the exact same thing
[18:19] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: i havent done a damned thing so stop harassing me and acting a fool
[18:19] Magdalenamarie Morrisey: bye grace

And this is some more bullshit from Grace:
[18:54] Grace Loudon‧: Yes, yes you are
[18:54] Grace Loudon‧: Really - to have people go to another sim?
[18:54] Grace Loudon‧: I would have helped you all - that's the cruncher
[18:54] Grace Loudon‧: You are sore losers.
[18:57] Grace Loudon‧: Oh bite me - you don't know me and you never will. i don't tolerate your BS or your drama - just go play on your sim and leave mine alone. Who do you think you're kidding with your holier than thou attitude
[18:57] Grace Loudon‧: I'm not impress

Grym was opened and recruiting new players via a notice I sent in the Events&Information group…
Then I got this IM from Grace… and remember, I was co-owner of that group at that time!
[5:37] Grace Loudon: (Saved Thu May 27 14:28:54 2010) Hey Essie - please do not post any more notices for the Grym roleplay sim - thank you:)
[5:37] Essie Radford: Why not?
[5:38] Essie Radford: every sim is entitled to present themselves
[5:38] Grace Loudon: Because it is my group. And because they have poached for players in my sim.
[5:38] Essie Radford: you should put yourself above that Grace
[5:39] Grace Loudon: If they seek out players using those methods, they are not entitled to anything
[5:39] Grace Loudon: Essie - don't think for a moment I'll be lectured.
[5:39] Essie Radford: It is a group for all public announcements....
[5:39] Grace Loudon: It is *my* group.
[5:39] Essie Radford: and lets keep the simfights out of it
[5:40] Grace Loudon: I will determine what it's used for.
[5:40] Essie Radford: it is *our* group, since you agreed to join
[5:40] Essie Radford: I am not taking sides in anything, but we should stay nutral
[5:41] Grace Loudon: No it is my group.
[5:41] Grace Loudon: Thank you, Essie.

After that convo, I found myself being removed as owner via a ticket to LL.

People that were playing in Grymm were removed from the Everwind sims…
Vog: “If you have been banned from EW for rping with us, I would like to offer you my apologies because I respect your RP and your feelings as human beings and no one should be treated that way. Let your heart lead you to the sim where you feel most at home and welcome. If you choose to stay with us I appreciate hearing any of your suggestions for the sim or RP story lines. We'll do our best to ensure your RP here is satisfying. I would love to rant about this idea of "Poaching", but I won't.”

And this is what was send in the EW groups….
*In Everwind, I need to make it clear to all of our leaders that it is my preference that that leaders of Everwind *not* have leadership/administrator/gamemaster roles at other roleplay sims. If you find you are in that position, then I will require you choose which sim you wish to commit that time to and step down from your role in Everwind, if that's your choice. it doesn't mean you can't play in Everwind by any means.
*Part of the success of Everwind is the attentiveness of its leaders. The requirements are still in place for all who step up to the responsibility and in my opinion, when your time is shared with more than one sim, the requirements of EW cannot be met. Feel free to IM me if you have questions, concerns, etc. Thank you! As always, for your help in making Everwind such a great place to play!
*Please remove the following from any groups you operate within Everwind: Randy Magnifico, Essie Radford, Mark Scofield.

Ermmm very childish don’t you think… Not that I was in any of her groups anymore. I left when the drama started. But banning an sl partner…lolll… how LOW can you get.

I think she is scared…. Cuz she sent me this:
[21:43] Grace Loudon: (Saved Fri May 28 02:42:20 2010) I'm sure they're lined up to join your group with that drama-laden introduction. It's a shame, really. You have *no clue* who I am, what I do or why i do it. I could very well stoop to your level and post my own little "whoa is me" notecard...but i won't. I'll just let you wallow down there in the mud by yourself. Have a good one, Essie.
[21:45] Essie Radford: I think YOU have *NO CLUE* who I am, what I do or WHY i do it.... Shame that ppl were right about you...... MUTED, oww and I muted the Banhammer too

I made a new group for Events/Info/Help for medieval/fantasy roleplay… and a friend of mine announced it in the ‘old’ Events group.
“A NEW RP GROUP: A group where people can find information and events from all over the medieval/fantasy roleplay grid... and also a group where people help people. We all started somewhere....
A few months ago, THIS group was bleeding to death, and it later emerged with another ACTIVE group. There was DRAMA that involved the founder, several rp-ers, realmowners and myself... SAD, yes i know! And we are now forced to SPLIT from this group... a new and IMPROVED RP group. Sign up:)”
And this was Graces reply: “Please forgive the drama folks...nothing more than a disgruntled former member who had a hard time keepinjg up with the rules.”

Very professional, don’t you think?


And here is a lil message for Grace….
“Enjoy your SL, your Realm… Enjoy that little Island you are on… and please enjoy your power-tripping. YOU ARE NOTHING. NOTHING cuz YOU don’t consider ppl’s feelings and you only care about yourself and your sl playground. You want ppl to lay at your feet… to jump around and obey like dogs! YOU ARE DEALING WITH PEOPLE WHO HAVE REAL FEELINGS!!!!”


Note: ALL CONVO’S HAVE BEEN SHARED WITH ME VIA OFF-WORLD SOURCES. TOS does NOT rule the world outside Second Life

What shall I do....

I had a convo with a couple of ppl in SL...
They wonder why i talked to them...
They dont care why i came to them...but they still wonder....
They involved more ppl in their 'war'...
They call me a bitch....
They say I made them sad... cry even...
They say that 'nobody' likes me...
They say that all other ppl do bad-talk about them, and that they are....innocent...
They claim they never grieved me...or other ppl...
They think i will write something about them...publish the chat-log even...
They are afraid that i will mention their names here...
They want me to close my blog...
They say they will report me to LL...
They even say they will get blogger to close this blog...

I know they daily check this blog, to see if they are on it... *laughs*


Now...what shall I do....

I will get back to ya later :)

"IT IS MY SIM!!! I CAN DO WHAT I WANT!!!"

I heard that a couple of times in the past 3 years…
… Sim-owners saying this to members and leaders/admins…

Yes, yes, I know it is THEIR sim, and that WE are a ‘guest’ and WE have to kneel down to them and their rules cuz WE get to use THEIR sim for free… BLAH BLAH BLAH

I am talking about attitude here…

They make the simrules according to their vision…
They make rules like
… no cheating…
… don’t do this or that…
… be polite to each other…
… no drama…

The downfall of a sim/realm/group starts when the owners start to ignore their own rules… like making drama to people in the group-chat, talking abusive, calling names, using illegal weapons and much more.
And when you ask them about it, they say: “IT IS MY SIM!!! I CAN DO WHAT I WANT!!!” And don’t be surprised to find yourself ejected cuz you don’t agree with the owners power-play.
“IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT… LEAVE!!!”

I also noticed during my years in SL and visiting many RP-Sims, that most sim-owners are afraid to loose control of their sim… they don’t trust their leaders. And when a leader has a slightly different version about how things should be rp’d …they get replaced within a second.
Such sim-owners really don’t give a damn. They only give about themselves. They only care about their status “Oww look at me, I have loads of cash in RL and I can make a playground for you.”

A good example is this…
A new sim is recruiting leaders & members, but the owner isn’t really interested in helping the new leaders getting started or informed, they let them find their own path and don’t give any feed-back. Prolly cuz they find a sim-opening more important than the good basic structures that is needed in a sim.
And this is what happens a few weeks later… The sim-owners suddenly realise that they don’t agree with the leaders’ chosen paths in RP. The leaders have worked for many weeks, to get the groups up and running, but find themselves being pushed aside by new leaders that were recruited by the sim-owner. And they weren’t even told they didn’t rp’d the vision of the owner… no warning upfront… nothing…

I own a Medieval/Fantasy MM group with 3000+ members…
And yes, I have rules. I need to have rules or it will become a MESS…
One of the rules is “No modern items”, sounds logic right?
So, would it be ok, for me as group-owner, to ignore my own rule and post modern items, but say to the rest “Piss off, it is MY group. And if you don’t like it, GET LOST!!!”???
I think I would loose my credibility…
I think that ppl would leave my group…

And that is what will happen to a sim where an owner ignores their own rules…
PPL will leave, and a downfall will follow…

A sim-owner is supposed to be an EXAMPLE to ALL MEMBERS…
And sim-owners have a task to listen to concerns of the members.
A sim-owner should work together with leaders/admins cuz they are the ones that motivate, drive the members… and THAT is what makes a sim a wonderful place to be…

IF it were true...

A couple of months ago. A friend from SL told me that he had to leave cuz he had some RL problems. He was divorced and cuz of some personal problems after that, he got fired. He could not find a place of his own to rent. He lived on the streets for a while to save money.
He now lives with friends and family who helped him after finding out he was living in the streets. He was just ashamed to ask them for help. I have a big deal of respect for this man. He is fighting to get his life in order. And he is winning this battle.

Now...the following case is very different...

WARNING: Please grab a kleenex, cuz the next part you will read is very.... snifffff.....

This begging letter was send in some groups in SL and also to individuals:
**Fundraising call for Real Life Crisis**
This is a real life plea for help to all Members of both the Medieval Midnight Mania and the Gorean Midnight Mania to please if you can donate any spare Lindens you may have. Pierce Ackmann is about to be made homeless in REAL LIFE, he has 2 days to find money for rent otherwise he has nowhere to live and will be on the streets, he has a son of 6 who he is desperately trying to stay near as his ex wife is being treated for Breast Cancer and and he needs to have somewhere that he can take him too, as with all of us sometimes things have not gone well in this economy and he now faces eviction in 48 hours. This is a honest request, any money donated will go directly to him for his situation. We ask only that you give something if you can and that people leave all SL drama out of this. It is happening in his real life not in here.
We will be erecting a place to donate in Gaia Market but until then please donate should you wish to do so directly to Pierce AV.
If you wish to donate anonymously please do so by passing on to Zun Sahara she will pass on anything received by her directly to Pierce.
If you wish to show support but have no spare Lindens then just by joining the support group in Siren Lexenstar or Zun Sahara's profiles will be much appreciated.
Many Thanks for reading
**The people of Gaia**

Now… what would YOU do if you get a letter from your landlord that you will be kicked out if you don’t pay your rent?

Hmmm good question... I would freak… BUT what made it come that far to get kicked out? I mean… you know months in advance that you need to pay rent. And I would do anything to get that cash to pay my rent. I would go to friends and family to ask them if they can help me. I would ALSO get a job! Yes… a job is a good way of getting money. Or a bank robbery but I wouldn’t recommend that.

Now… what IF you had a kid… and knew that payment was due any minute cuz you had many letters about it… would you still be playing SL? Would you still grief ppl in a GAME instead of doing what SHOULD BE done?

I think somebody here needs a reality check. THIS is a REAL WORLD where you need to pay for REAL or you will be in big troubles FOR REAL.

Some reactions that reached me:
“if the man would turn off the computer and god damn work like he is supposed to, this would not happen”
“it is sad when we both attempted to help him long ago his addiction on here is out of control maybe a walk in reality will do him good”
“xxx strongly suggest Pierce to check into Hospice places and his local shelter and churches as they can help IMMEDIATELY to find him a place”
"Again he plays a victim. This is a bad way of winning sympathy. And his RL shit should be kept out of SL"
"sickening note eh? almost poetic justice for him. he is pathetic. I have told people that from the beginning."
"Cheers to the King without a castle"

OK. So IF it was true…
Then I am really sorry for the kid to have Pierce as his dad…
Knowing he wasn’t there for the kid, as in working to give him his needs, but only for his SL addiction. I will leave the 'sick Ex-wife'out of the picture... IF it was true...

Am I a bad person that I write all this?
Am I a bad person to question the mans motives?
Am I a bad person to warn ppl about him?
Am I a bad person when I make him cry after he reads this?

I don’t think so.

I think this can also be seen as a warning to all ppl that do NOT WANT TO WORK cuz of their SL addiction.

And of course... the almost homeless 'King of Fools' is online in Sl... IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT!
Shouldn't he be packing???

I think somebody needs a reality check. AND A GOOD ONE.
REAL LIFE isn’t a game. We can NOT teleport away from our REAL LIFE problems


01/12/2010 Destination: Pierce Ackmann L$1

Background history, oldest post to newest (yeah yeah, it is ALOT):
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2009/10/you-bitch-me-or-my-friends-i-bitch-you.html
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2009/11/such-poor-sod.html
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2009/11/he-has-shit-in-his-pants.html
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2009/11/andddd-he-just-loves-meeeeeee.html
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2009/11/o-dear-o-dear.html
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2009/11/sighs.html
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2009/11/he-is-king-of-fools.html
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2009/12/another-day-with-my-new-found-love.html
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2009/12/jester-tos.html
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2009/12/we-rawk.html

I told you so....

hello hispa, long time no talk
you probably dont recgonize this account but i was evanos ethaniel, jennidia's son
was just crossed by her for the last time
well, i just wanted to appologize to you for the way that everyone treated you and especially me when it came to jen
she hacked two of my accounts, changed their passwords, cancled both, and even changed the password on my email
all because i didnt want to rp in her sim any longer
so again
i wanted to appologize for not seeing that you were right all along
she is a bad person

I told you so...

Background:
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2009/07/bloody-nutters.html
http://essieradford.blogspot.com/2009/07/my-tummy-hurts.html
Dont forget to read the comments....
Especially the ones of Robby...
He found out she was a fraud aswelll just a few weeks after he wrote his comments ;p;p

Dont you just love Karma...

ADDED:
Also read:
http://twobeautifulpeople.blogspot.com/2010/01/jennidia-spreads-her-brand-of-love.html
http://twobeautifulpeople.blogspot.com/2009/07/shame-on-you.html
http://twobeautifulpeople.blogspot.com/2009/06/jaded.html
http://twobeautifulpeople.blogspot.com/2009/03/hispa-is-hero.html